When not to get married: with such high divorce statistics are there any indicators when to say no? Reading various reports the answer is yes. However, there are some subtle, as well as not so subtle indicators, which should make you think twice before saying yes.
Here are some questions to ask yourself: but they will only give a true indicator of when not to get married if you answer truthfully. Either sit down with a close friend, or by yourself, and address the pros and cons. Some questions may be applicable to you, others may not. A close friend is more likely to be more challenging of your answers.
It is not a question of how may questions you answer yes to. An example of when not to get married is if there has been abuse of any kind. The answer should be a resounding no. If you still wish to give him/her a chance then at least they should be prepared to acknowledge their abuse, enroll in, and complete an appropriate programme. You should enter this marriage with your eyes wide open.
A true scenario of when not to get married:
I sat down with my close friend the day before her wedding. I said to her: imagine I am a good alien who is going to abduct and protect you. When you return everything will be OK; the wedding will have been cancelled, the groom pacified, the parents understanding, the presents returned and your guests understanding. This I will do for you. She said no, everything was all right.
A couple of years later, after her divorce, she admitted two things to me (a) she married to spite her mother and (b) she wished she had said yes to the alien abduction, but just didnt have the nerve. She married her ex because he reminded her of a famous cricketer whom she admired.
Finally, the old saying “all good things are worth waiting for dont be in such a rush to say yes.